Colette Pervette: Why Are All My Friends Becoming Dominatrixes?

Life is a Festival #163

 

Lately I've noticed a curious trend: many of my female friends, particularly those from the Burning Man community, are exploring a path of sexual healing by becoming Professional Dommes. To shed light on this phenomenon, I spoke to Colette Pervette, a professional dominatrix and the mentor behind MistressClass, an immersive program designed to guide women into the realm of becoming a dominatrix.

In this episode, we explore the origins and motivations behind kink and Colette and I role play a man seeking the services of a dominatrix. Our discussion ranges from the potential for burnout, to contrasting male and female doms, and the intricate dynamics of power in BDSM. Colette shares the intersection of kink and Buddhism, the experience of participating in one of her Mistress Classes, and the empowering role of a coven in teaching BDSM. As our conversation progresses, we become aware of a power dynamic unfolding between us, offering valuable insights for us both.

Colette, a professional Dominatrix with over 18 years of experience, combines deep practice and theoretical understanding of BDSM into an alchemical, spiritual approach to kink. With a Ph.D. in Education from UC Berkeley, she focuses on dispelling misconceptions about kink and alternative sexuality through her teaching and writing. As an Educatrix, she instructs women and couples in the art of FemDom and BDSM, guiding them to discover and wield their personal power. Her online course, MistressClass, offers an immersive journey into becoming a Dominatrix, helping hundreds of women and femmes step into their full power and authority.

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Timestamps

  • (10:30) - Why are all my friends becoming proDoms lately

  • (12:00) - The childhood seeds of Colette Pervette

  • (17:45) - Does kink come from the Collective Unconscious

  • (26:45) - What type of person visits a Dominatrix?

  • (32:00 - Do you get burnt out as a ProDom?

  • (36:00) - The difference between a male ProDom and a Dominatrix

  • (41:30) - What is a power dynamic?

  • (46:00) - Kink and Buddhism

  • (51:00) - The Dom is subconscious and the sub is self-conscious

  • (55:30) - The power of a coven for teaching BDSM

  • (1:00:30) - How can men support

 

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Audio Engineering by Trevor Coulter

Theme song ““Peculiar Colors” [Manjumasi]“ by dj atish